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FUNERALS

Funerals at The Crossing

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Can I ask for a funeral at The Crossing  Church and how do I arrange one …?

The death of someone we love is one of life’s hardest challenges and on top of the emotional strain of bereavement there are also many things to arrange.  The list of arrangements to make and forms to complete can feel daunting.   At The Crossing we are committed to ensuring that whenever people request a funeral in church it is made as easy as possible for this to be arranged.

 

We recognise the worth of an accessible place for family and friends to gather, particularly when for some the journey to a crematorium can preclude their attendance, and we welcome funeral requests regardless of whether the deceased or mourners profess a strong faith.   We count it a privilege to open the doors and offer a funeral as an expression of the church’s faith in the God who knows and shares our grief and sadness.

 

… And when human hearts are breaking under sorrow’s iron rod

Then they find that selfsame aching deep within the heart of God.

Bishop Timothy Rees (1874-1939)

Your chosen Funeral Director will liaise with the church (normally through the Minister of The Crossing but if the family wish for another Minister to be involved in taking the service then that can be arranged) in order to establish what dates and times are possible – working with what works best for you and taking into account the availability of the church and minister.   The Minister (or his deputy at times when he is unavailable) will visit and meet with loved ones to prepare a funeral which most appropriately reflects the person whose life is being celebrated.   The Minister will make every effort to ensure the service contains a Tribute and will, unless otherwise requested, expect to prepare and deliver the Tribute himself.   The Minister will offer a funeral service drawing on the liturgical practises of the United Reformed and Methodist Church and will attempt to blend an air of dignity with a personal feel.   The involvement of family members/friends or ministers/priests known personally to you in the conduct of the funeral is possible subject to a conversation with the Minister.

 

The Crossing seeks to be flexible in its approach regarding the content of the service, though it will be taken for granted that the service will contain prayers and at least one Bible reading.   The church offers the option of the digital projection of photographs on the screen and CDs can be played through the church’s PA system.   The printing of black and white Orders of Service, using the church’s photocopier, can be discussed with the Minister.

The Minister will expect to conduct the committal at the Crematorium or graveside as well as the service in church.   In your conversations with the Funeral Director you may find it helpful to know that it is possible to both follow or precede the church service with the committal – that is, you can opt to have the short service of committal at the Crematorium or graveside and then the ‘main’ service (without the coffin) in church.   Some people opt for this as it enables both a more private and intimate gathering for the committal and also ensures a larger number of those attending the funeral stay on for the refreshments that often follow the service.   Both the Minister and Funeral Director will be happy to explain this option further before you decide.

 

Local Funeral Directors are aware of the current church fees.

Can I ask the Minister of The Crossing to conduct a funeral even if it is not in church?

The  Minister is happy to be asked to conduct a service in a Crematorium or Cemetery.   Arrangements are the same as for a service in church though it is important to note that time restrictions are necessary at our local crematoria.   (Funeral Directors will be able to advise on this and, in the case of a large gathering and the desire for a longer service, it is worth exploring the option of asking for a ‘double slot’ [i.e. two consecutive ‘times’].)

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Those wishing to explore this option are invited to discuss it with both the Funeral Director and Minister.

 

Have you any good advice about arranging a funeral?

Death is the one ‘certainty’ of life.   None of us can ever ‘know’ when our funeral service will take place.    It is of great comfort to those left behind to know what and where we would like for our funeral.   The personal advice of The Crossing’s minister is this:   after reading this commit to paper some basic ideas of the place and content of your funeral.   State whether your preference is cremation or burial.   File your instructions with the documents that loved ones will most readily turn to when arranging your funeral.   All Funeral Directors offer the option of a ‘Pre-Paid Funeral’ (with the benefit of relieving your loved ones from the burden of payment at the time of your death);  ‘Pre-Paid Funeral’ arrangements include your instructions on content and place.

 

The church takes seriously the care of the dying – whether a member of the church or not – and anyone wishing for a visit to a loved one is welcome to contact the Minister.

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If further information would be helpful please don’t hesitate to contact the Minister.

 

Revd. Geoffrey S. Clarke

 

 

The church takes seriously the care of the dying – whether a member of the church or not – and anyone wishing for a visit to a loved one is welcome to contact the Minister.

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If further information would be helpful please don’t hesitate to contact the Minister.

 

Revd. Geoffrey S. Clarke

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


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